Love or Infatuation??????????

Whenever I come across anyone who says he or she is in love, I feel happy for them 'cos being in love is such a beautiful feeling and everyone should experience it.

At a certain age, there is a natural tendency to get attracted to the opposite sex which we call it infactuation which starts with eyes and ends with eyes. The feeling that touches the heart is love, no matter where it starts and how it starts. Now I'm not a Love Guru but this is my take on love and infactuation.

I don't believe in " Love at first sight ". I might be getting into bad books of some people who read me. For me, love starts with interaction and knowing the person better. I have a little confession here. When I first saw my husband in the Orthopedic outpatient department, I thought he was very handsome. When I got to know him better, that is when I realised he is a very nice person too. That made me fall for him.

It is natural to get into and out of relationships as we grow up. I think its different with guys and gals. What I have observed with few of the people around me is that they are falling into something which they are not sure of to get out if things don't work out for them. They think they are in love when, in reality, they are infactuated with the person they just saw.

Some just blindly think that they are in love with whoever they are with, whether its the circumstances that bring them together or the people around them. They are not ready to accept the fact that the person they want to live with might not be the right one for them.

Well, some say love is blind and it is love and not infactuation when they feel the way i just described in the previous sentence. When they go ahead and start their new life with that person, they realise that they did a mistake.

It is different in other countries where the guys and gals of teen-age are vocal, about their feelings, to their parents. Also, parents don't feel embarrased to discuss these things with kids. More importantly, the kids are not scared of their parents to express themselves. It is quite different here in India. Though we see a lot of love marriages happening in this generation, we hardly see any parents who accept things with a smile and a hug.

The kids think that their parents wouldn't understand when they tell them that they are in love. After a certain age, parents need to be friendly with their kids so that the kids feel free to share everything with the parents and the parents can advice them to take the right path and chose the right person to be " happy ever after " !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There are always hiccups in every relationship but at the end of the day what matters is that you and the one who loves you stay together and learn from experiences and both are happy to go through the ups and downs together and treat eachother as not "me" or "you" but as "us".

Till the next post, keep falling in love !!!!!!!!!!

R

Cryotherapy

It was 5:30 in the morning and the alarm rang on my husband's mobile. Having got a call a month ago at the same time in the morning, saying that my mom was ill and she has been hospitalized, I got up thinking that it was a call again of similar kind and not the alarm that woke me up. I turned my head up and back, together, suddenly and pulled a muscle or two in the neck. Being a physical therapist, I knew exactly what to do and applied ice on the neck for 10 minutes, since i was in the acute stage. This happened 2 days back and few hours after I applied ice, I could move my neck to the same side as that of the injury and I was unable to that before. I applied ice again at night and the next day I could move my neck even better.

In this post, I would like to share my knowledge on crotherapy and the logic behind its application. Cryotherapy is the application of ice for treatment of soft tissue injuries, mainly. The soft tissues I am talking about here are muscles, ligaments, menisci, so on and so forth. Bone is not a soft tissue. Whenever there is a soft tissue injury, we see there is swelling around that region. When ice is applied to the swolled part, the swelling comes down and so does the pain and muscle spasm.

How is the swelling reduced?

The logic behind the application of ice is that the blood vessels constrict when ice is applied and then dilate later. By this, when the blood vessels are dilated, a gush of blood flows out and clears the fluid which creates the swelling from the site of injury.

How is the pain reduced?

Application of ice also reduces pain. The application of ice after sometime causes a sensation of burning or pain on the skin and this pain is perceived more than that of the pain caused due to injury and thus the pain due to injury is reduced. This process is called counter-iritant effect which is also the logic behind topical applications like balms and pain relieving ointments. Another theory says that when there is injury, pain producing substances are also released at the site of injury and by application of ice, the vasodilatation which clears the swelling, also washes out the pain producing substances.

How does ice relieve spasm?

Ice application also reduces muscle spasm. Spasm is a defensive mechanism to protect the body parts from further injury. The muscles around the site of injury undergo spasm to prevent that particular part form further injury.Application of ice alleviates pain and swelling. The pain producing substances and the swelling are the reminders for the muscle to remain in the state of spasm as they are the indicators of injury. So when these substances are washed out through application of ice, the spasm is also reduced.

There are different methods of application of ice. You find ice packs in the market. Those of you who can't find or afford to buy those or when injury occurs to soft tissues in the region which is not flat, you can go for ice bags, ice towels. The best method to apply ice at home is crush the ice and put it in a plastic bag or a dry cloth and apply it over the site of injury for 10 minutes or less but not more than that as it might lead to skin injury.

Uses of ice clinically are many. I would not recommend using ice for other forms of injury at home, as it is used for in the clinic.

Till the next post, stay healthy folks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

R

The Chiken or the Egg?

You must be familiar with the argument, what came first, the chicken or the egg? I find something similar to this - the media and entertainment and the real life. I can't put it better, forgive me for the simpleton I am. Everytime I watch someone, killed or molested or kidnapped or abused or acid thrown on someone by their own peers ,on the news or in a movie or in a soap, I wonder if these mediums are spreading awareness among people to be wary of the these situations around them and warning them to not fall into these traps or are these mediums giving ideas to those who are in need of it to create situations like that and make others go through this misery?

When asked, those who work for these mediums, say that they are bringing the real life stories to everyone's notice but by doing so are they not bringing it to the notice of those people too who are in need of those ideas in this matter? Not everyone is bad by birth. Situations make a person what he / she is. By showing something like that through a popular medium, don't you think the person who is in need of such an idea, is actually showed a path which he / she might not otherwise take it?

I also believe that these mediums are not encouraging the people to take up the wrong path. What a person turns into also depends on his / her own desire to become that. People around him / her should interfere and show the right path. But what about those who don't have anyone around them? When these people are asked why did they have to do it, they say, " Is it not how the world is?" That is when I feel that if only they knew that it is not how the world is and it is how only few people are.

Worst part is that there is not justice done to the victim and this gives the stubborn strength to the one who dares of attempting such a thing. We see that there are many pending cases in the courts, justice delayed to some victims and others even deprived of it. People who commit the crime roam around on the streets like they haven't done anything wrong.

I believe that when the media, in all forms, not only shows the incident and the detailed description of it but also arranges for a public court or discussions with not just the elite crowd but also the regular middle class and low class crowd to participate in it and make them a part of being right, something can be done to stop the crime. Also, the courts have to speed up the system of justice being done.

Tickets for contesting the elections should not be given to those who have already committed offense in any form. Unfortunately, that is not how it happens in this country but I think it's high time we did something about it too. Whoever in authority, commits crime, should be sacked. I mean, come on, we are among the top countries in terms of population. Can't we find a replacement in this ocean of people? Finally, who is going to put this through someone's head, someone who is willing for a change like this?

Signed

" R ".

The Horse Boy

I read this on the CNN website this morning and I found it very interesting. There are so many things around us which we hardly pay attention to. I'm not talking about the CNN website or my computer here. The article talked about a child who was autistic and how his father followed what his child showed him that led the path to his recovery. Want to know how he did it? Click here for the CNN article. Fine out more about The Horse Boy here.

Signed
R

Secret of attraction...

She laughed at me when I told that, I felt the person to be very arrogant.She then simply said that whatever you attract comes to you.

What??

You mean I attract arrogance??

You mean I attract negativity??

I immediately retorted back.

After listening to all my counter questions she silently smiled at me and advised me to read "The Secret"and said that she has that book and is more that happy to give me that book to read. (May be she is fed up of all my counter questions).

Lazily turning the pages, my eyes fell on these lines.

"Everything that's coming into your life you are attracting into your life.
And it's attracted to you by virtue of the images you're holding in your mind.
It's what you're thinking.Whatever is going on in your mind you are attracting to you."
"Every thought of yours is a real thing—a force."

And that's it,I went on to complete the book.

I could recollect why my friend gave me a silent smile when i complained.I could also recollect few things that I attracted into my life.

For instance,In my graduation everyone told me that it was very difficult to complete graduation without failing at least in one subject.This pre-occupied my mind.One fine day came the results and i failed.What I attracted came back to me with a bang.
I never knew that thoughts are so powerful that they tend to change our lives.

I was always attracted to writing and blogging and had a desire to start a blog.I attracted it..here it is...

I will leave the post with these words....

The law of attraction doesn't care whether you perceive something to be good or bad, or whether you don't want it or whether you do want it. It's responding to your thoughts. So if you're looking at a mountain of debt, feeling terrible about it, that's the signal you're putting out into the Universe. "I feel really bad because of all this debt I've got." You're just affirming it to yourself. You feel it on every level of your being. That's what you're going to get more of.

Love
T